Infertility Warrior: Shelby

Today on the blog I want to introduce you our infertility warrior Shelby. Shelby is currently expecting a beautiful baby girl via IVF after her struggles with infertility. We are thrilled to have her here today to tell her story and answer a few questions.

Q: Tell us a little about your infertility journey.
My husband and I have been together for 10 years married for 3. We’ve always wanted kids. We got off of birth control the year before we got married so we could start trying immediately after our wedding. We got married March 25th and then it was on 😉 After about six months of trying I asked our doctor if we could try some clomid to help jump start the system. We did. Six months, nothing. At our next appointment out doctor suggested we get my husband checked to make sure he was ok before we went any further. So this was our first infertility apt. They ran all kinds of test on my hubs and a sperm analysis. When we got the results back we thought there had been a mistake. ZERO. Straight zeros down the paper. No sperm. We were devastated. And so our infertility journey starts. My husband went on meds to try and see if he could get some sperm but we were told from the beginning it probably would never be enough for a natural pregnancy. So we tried 6 IUIs with donor sperm. Nothing. After that they ran all the test on me and I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We then had the opportunity to adopt a child and we moved forward with that and had the family back out. Then we decided to try IVF. My husband had 19 sperm. So if was just enough. Got 8 eggs at our retrieval 3 survived. Our first transfer didn’t take but our second was our sweet spot. Today I’m 22 weeks and 2 days pregnant with the sweet baby girl of my dreams. 

 Q: What has been the hardest part?
 Seeing everyone else get pregnant. All the questions about why Anthony and I weren’t having children. It hurts and it was very hard on me emotionally because I wasn’t ready to be open about our infertility yet, especially because it wasn’t just my story to share. We have male and female factor infertility and who am I to out my husband. This is our story and I had to be cautious of both of our feelings about the situation we were in.

Q: What has been the best part?
 I won’t lie to you this was super hard on my marriage between hormones and emotions running high we went through it. But, my favorite part was how close my husband and I got. We had to be there for each other in ways we didn’t know we could. It pushed our married to the edge but we came out on the other side and we’re better partners for it. 

Q: Where are you now on this journey?
 22 weeks and 2 days with a sweet little girl 

Q: What is one question you wish people would stop asking?
 Are you nervous? 

Of course I’m nervous. But not because I went through IVF but because I’m a mom now. I think natural moms are nervous too. 

Q: Anything you have learned that you would like to pass along?
I know it’s hard. I know it sucks. I know you probably cry everyday but keep going. If you don’t try you’ll always wonder what if. And now after being through it. Id do it 100 more times. 
Q: Anyone or anything that has inspired you along your journey?
 A lot of IVF warriors on Instagram were very inspiring. And my sister was the one who finally convinced me to share my journey. 

Q: Any resources or other accounts you would like to share that you found helpful during or after your journey?
 I follow a couple of insta pages the IVF warrior and pregnant through IVF. They are both great. The women are so supportive. 

Q: Where can people find out more about you? (Instagram, Facebook)
 @Shelby.Christiana is my insta
Shelby Lyn Christiana is my Facebook 

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